Bridesmaid and witness – differences, duties and features of the ideal one
Who is the bridesmaid and who is the witness and how to choose them? What is the difference between a bridesmaid and a bridesmaid, and what does each of them do to fulfill the bride’s dream wedding dreams? In short, everything you need to know about the “wedding bodyguard”!
Assistant, stylist, dressmaker, seamstress, wedding planner, event manager, dance leader, carer. Right Hand, Guardian Angel and a working woman who is not afraid of any work. The witness is not a function … The witness is a special mission!
Being a witness or bridesmaid is a unique distinction, but at the same time a very big responsibility. It is largely on the shoulders of the closest group of the bride to bear many considerable challenges and demanding tasks that may outweigh the success of the wedding ceremony and reception.
The witness, i.e. the first bridesmaid
The witness is primarily a formally defined function. In order for the marriage oath to be binding, the presence of the party celebrating the marriage and of witnesses is required. It is a clergyman or civil registrar, i.e. a privileged witness whose presence is related to the fulfillment of legal requirements for marriage. The witnesses of the bride and groom should be trusted. They can also be people of the same sex.
If you choose to have witnesses of both sexes, it is customary for the witness to support the bride during the preparations, especially on the wedding day and at the wedding reception. In addition to completing the formalities, i.e. signing the marriage, the witness function involves many important obligations.
Wedding witness duties:
Help in choosing a wedding dress. Presence and objective assessment during the first visits to the salons and at all fittings.
Support at every stage of wedding preparations. From the choice of the wedding hall, through the purchase of decorations, to the selection of shoes for the wedding dress – providing advice and taking care of the topics commissioned by the bride.
Organization of a henparty. Planning a party for the bride tailored to her interests, buying a gift and inviting guests.
Coordination of the list of wedding gifts. If the bride and groom decide to do so, the guests should enter their gifts on the list kept by the witness.
Relieving the bride a few days before the wedding. The last days before the wedding are a real emotional and organizational rollercoaster for the bride and groom, so let them focus on the most important things and let the witnesses take care of the rest.
Preparation of a rescue basket for the bride. From painkillers to needle and thread to hairpins, you need to have everything you need in an emergency close at hand.
Help in dressing the bride. Often a wedding dress is not easy to dress, and you have to watch over all the accessories, hairstyle and makeup.
Signature after the wedding ceremony. Formalities to be completed at the registry office or church (note: you must have an ID card or passport with you in the case of a foreigner!).
Presence during the wishes for the bride and groom. He will stand right behind the bride and receive flowers and gifts from guests.
Caring for wedding gifts. After wishes, the witnesses are responsible for the safe transport of gifts from guests to the place designated by the newlyweds.
Taking care of the perfect appearance of the bride during the wedding. Taking care of makeup and hairstyle fixes and caring for the right look of the outfit.
Responding to the needs of guests. Witnesses are the first people to whom wedding guests should contact if they have questions or problems.
Close cooperation with subcontractors during the wedding. Constant supervision over the service of the wedding hall, wedding team or photographer and the first contact with service providers so as not to unnecessarily involve the bride and groom.
Support during the capitals. The organization of the nets, engaging guests in games and, of course, undoing the veil for the bride.
Help in saying goodbye to guests. Support for the bride and groom when saying goodbye to guests, preparing any gifts or providing transport.
Taking care of organizational issues after the wedding party. Cooperation with the wedding hall in cleaning the room, packing and taking food and drinks, supervising leftover items or financial settlements.
How to choose the perfect witness?
The witness is a person from the circle of the bride’s family or closest friends. It could be a sister, cousin or friend. In Poland, it has been accepted that an unmarried woman is chosen as a witness, but more and more often people start to depart from this tradition. It must also be an adult. However, the most important thing is to combine the intimacy with the bride with the appropriate character traits that will allow her to perform her demanding role from A to Z.
Features of the perfect witness
Trustworthy. A person from the group of loved ones with whom you can feel calm about the secrets entrusted to you and truthfulness.
Supportive. She provides advice and assistance (and when necessary – also with a handkerchief) at any time of preparation for the wedding and on the wedding day.
Constructive. Supportive but wise. Not showering the bride with compliments when she sees that she is making poorly considered decisions.
Dynamic. Operative and energetic person who can get things done and “you can steal horses with her”!
Organized. She plans and carries out all the tasks entrusted to her with commitment and attention to every detail.
Responsible. She is mature and has a common sense approach to every situation and takes responsibility for the tasks entrusted to her.
Resistant to stress. He does not lose his head in the most stressful situations and always tries to solve the problem.
Assertive. He can present his point of view in a substantive way and say “no” to all subcontractors and even the family, if they are not in favor of the bride.
Delegating tasks. She knows that she cannot do everything alone, so like a true leader, she can manage a team of subcontractors or bridesmaids so that everyone knows what and when to do.
Bridesmaid, or additional support for the bride
A bridesmaid or bridesmaid is a woman accompanying the bride during the wedding ceremony and reception. There are no restrictions as to marital status or age. Girls up to the age of 16 are called bridesmaids. If the bride decides to enter the procession of bridesmaids, one of them is always the older one (and therefore the witness), who is the first and most important in the hierarchy, but also has the greatest responsibility.
Accompanying the bride on her way to church and during the wedding ceremony. The so-called bridesmaids’ retinue is our old tradition, but its charm convinces more and more young couples in Europe.
Witness support. There is only one witness, and the list of her duties may be difficult to fulfill alone. It’s a good idea to divide the smaller tasks between the bridesmaids.
The help of a witness in organizing a hen party. If the nature and size of the planned event requires the help of third parties, it is worth involving all or some of the bridesmaids in the preparations.
Keeping guests entertained. This is also the task of the witness, but she cannot spend the entire wedding on the dance floor, so it is worth supporting the other bridesmaids here.
Childcare. If there is no animator at the wedding, bridesmaids may relieve parents of playing with their children in some parts of the party.
How to choose the perfect bridesmaid?
The perfect bridesmaid is one that is close to the bride’s heart. It does not have to be an unmarried person, as is common in Poland in the case of witnesses. If the bridesmaid is to be the first in the hierarchy, she must meet all the requirements for a witness. However, if he is part of the retinue, he does not have to be MacGyver and Goku Wan in one person. It is enough that it is an important person for the bride, who can also support the witness in minor tasks.
For example, if one of the girls has manual skills, let them help with decorations and with any tailoring corrections. If fashion is another’s passion, she can advise the bride on the choice of styling and watch over her appearance throughout the party.
More than one bridesmaid, or team bride
Bridesmaids’ retinue is a Western custom that has been becoming more and more popular also in Poland for several seasons. If you are a traditionalist, you will certainly choose only one woman for your support. However, if you do not stick to the Polish wedding standard and you have many sisters or friends, and you cannot distinguish only one of them, it is worth considering selecting a larger group. You will feel better! Similar-looking women gathered around the bride are a nice accent that will add positive energy and fresh color to the wedding and reception.
What should the witness/bridesmaid look like?
If there is only a witness at the wedding, all attention, immediately after the bride and groom, is focused on her. On the other hand, if you have several bridesmaids (it has been assumed that the maximum is 12!), It is certain that such a large group will be in the center of attention. That is why in both cases it is so important to carefully choose the costumes for the bridesmaids and bridesmaids. In order not to distract too much attention from the main characters of the event, the women accompanying the bride should wear similar or the same dresses.
Currently, bridesmaids are being styled in identical outfits, because they lose their individuality and each woman has different types of beauty or figures that should be taken into account so that everyone feels comfortable and looks good. It is important that the outfits for the group should have a common element, such as color, material or cut, so that the whole procession is a coherent whole.
Most of the bridesmaids and bridesmaids choose the dresses they choose in consultation with the bride. These should be subtle and elegant outfits to emphasize the high importance of the occasion, but also constitute a beautiful background for the bride’s styling. Women most often choose airy dresses in pastel colors, with a midi or maxi length.
How is a bridesmaid different from a witness? Summary
There may be many bridesmaids, but there is only one witness. The bridesmaids form a retinue to accompany the bride, but the wedding can take place without them. A witness, known as the first or senior bridesmaid, is a person without whom the wedding and reception cannot take place. Literally and figuratively.